Many people say they want a great relationship but they spend the
majority of their time at work or attending social and community
groups, leaving very little if any time to connect with their
partner.

We suggest that you be very clear inside yourself how you want to
live your life and then live it accordingly.  If you say your kids
are the most important people in your life, then spend time with
them.  If you say your connection to your partner is most important,
then allow your life to reflect that.  Do whatever is necessary to
first find out what you truly value and then begin spending your time
and energy cultivating those areas of your life.

A good way to begin doing this is to make a list of what is most
important to you and then rank the items in your list.  Then chart
how you actually spend your time for one week.  Next, compare your
list of what you value most with how you are actually spending your
time.